#Why do some companies behave so badly when an employee leaves?

I’ve been an outside consultant for a few large companies over the last 20 years. They tout how they are recognized as a Top 100 employer, but at the same time, I’ve seen people walked out after 25-plus years as if they were criminals. How do I give my everything when one day that might be me?

I find it interesting how some companies pull out all the stops, wooing talent to join the company, but then treat that talent differently on the way out. Some companies force employees who have resigned to pack up and leave the same day, but usually only if they are going to a competitor. Otherwise, most people are able to transition respectfully. Laid-off employees are typically given notice and allowed to exit gracefully, too. Usually, the only time a company considers making an employee do the “perp walk” on the way out is if they were guilty of some criminal activity or an egregious offense. In that case, the company may want to make an example to send a strong message to other employees, both to reinforce the company’s morals and ethics and to help deter anyone else from committing the same offense. Company reputations are now easy to learn via the Web, and you can see how employees are treated coming and going. That should be an important consideration before you join.

My friend was just promoted to become my boss. I don’t have an ego, but it feels weird since we used to gossip about our boss and co-workers. Do you think I have to transfer or leave?

You definitely need to find a new gossip partner, that’s for sure. It’s one thing to become friends with your boss, but quite different to have your friend become your boss. Everything is different now, and there are new boundaries. It would be unusual for both of you not to feel weird about it. So, you definitely need to discuss it openly. It’s also OK to admit that your ego may have taken a hit. You were peers, and you didn’t get the promotion. It’s normal to question, “Why not me?” It could be helpful to understand the answer. Give the relationship time to settle before you make any decisions about transferring or leaving.

Gregory Giangrande has over 25 years of experience as a chief human resources executive and is dedicated to helping New Yorkers get back to work. E-mail your questions to [email protected]. Follow Greg on Twitter: @greggiangrande and at GoToGreg.com