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#The Moneyist: My sister wants to distribute $50K to each grandchild from our mom’s savings — but some of us siblings don’t have kids

#The Moneyist: My sister wants to distribute $50K to each grandchild from our mom’s savings — but some of us siblings don’t have kids

‘My mom is not involved in this decision because she has delegated signing authority for the account to this sister and my brother’

Dear Quentin,

I trust my sister, but think she is sometimes driven by sentiment rather than practicality. I am one of four, and the sister who lives closest to my mom is handling finances for her. Mom is 93, in decent health, and currently in assisted living. 

That is the big picture. There is a buildup of funds in my mom’s checking account, due to regularly replenished income that did not get spent. She has other money in savings too, about $1 million.

My sister wants to make a distribution of the excess checking-account money — not to me and my siblings equally, but to my mom’s grandchildren, giving each grandchild an equal amount. That’s $50,000 to each of the grandchildren. 

My mom is not involved in this decision because she has delegated signing authority for the account to this sister and my brother. We do not want to involve her in this, although my sister has tried to lobby her a bit in favor of the grandchildren.

‘Mom and Dad always wanted their estate to treat all their children equally, and the grandchild distribution would not accomplish that.’

Mom and Dad always wanted their estate to treat all their children equally, and the grandchild distribution would not accomplish that. I do not have children, only stepchildren, and they would not be part of this distribution. 

My brother, who also signs checks, contends that the money should go to the four siblings, who can gift the money to their children if they wish. That is also my position. The remaining sibling is abstaining from the discussion. 

My sister disagrees, and believes that our mom loves her grandchildren and would want the money to go to them. My mom is still considered legally competent, though as a practical matter this is debatable. 

My money-managing sister is doing pretty well, aside from this episode, and I want to stay on good terms with all my siblings. How do we approach and define this for future money distributions?

Unhappy Sibling

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Dear Unhappy,

It’s a deft sleight of hand for a co-signer to authorize withdrawals of $50,000 to their and their other siblings’ children rather than take care of the day-to-day running of your mother’s finances. I understand that estate planning is foremost among your four siblings’ minds, but putting pressure on your mother to agree to this is not within the purview of responsibilities for this role. 

Thankfully, your brother is also a co-signer, and assuming they both have to authorize withdrawals, there is a safeguard in place. If your mother wants to distribute her assets equally among her beneficiaries — grandchildren are not considered beneficiaries if their parents are alive — her wishes should be respected. At best, it’s sharp practice. At worst, it’s opportunistic.

So what now? Some co-signers require permission from the account holder to make withdrawals, others may not. Check the rules on this arrangement with your mother and brother. Hold a family meeting to discuss the parameters of this arrangement, and talk to your mother — and, if necessary, the bank — about these limits and how no one should be put under pressure.

There are other potential potholes down the road. If your siblings are also co-owners of this bank account, the money in that account will automatically become their property when your mother dies. What’s more, the money in that account could be used to pay debts incurred by your siblings if they were involved in a lawsuit and/or if they divorced.

Your sister’s role as co-signer is to help manage your mother’s finances; make sure bills are paid on time, including rent or mortgage payments and other insurance policies the owner of the account may have; and, above all, look out for the welfare of the account owner — not figure out how to self-deal and pass money on to her own children. 

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